Wide World – Small World

The world we live in is wide.

Once we leave our confining spaces, the walls are gone and every step we take changes our perspective. We experience something new and find ourselves in new situations we can learn from and grow.

Sometimes the world seems so wide, we forget to pay attention to the details. These can be as small as one pixel, I like to call it.

Ever so often, when you look closely, the seemingly ugly and unpleasant thing can be of astonishing beauty and wonder.

Life works just like that: Sometimes there is twists and turns and you need to find something to focus on in all the hullabaloo.

Maybe you will find that these little things also reflect this wide and wondrous world, as small as they might be.

It is okay to explore the small world, to see what escapes the eye so easily, to understand the finer structures of the wide world we live in.

Five Years

Today it has been five full years.
My life has been majorly shaped an influenced by my great journey and I still like to look back in awe.
 

So I decided to look into the things that happened after the great journey:

 

  • I was able to finish an apprenticeship as a software developer
  • With that knowledge I was able to help many people in customer service, which I now participate in shaping
  • I created this website and transferred the whole of my first blog here, plus translating every article into English
  • Unwary of my luck, I drove two (European) cars of the year, each of them coloured red
  • I opened my photography business and have shot pictures of quite a few families friends and weddings
  • I substantially upgraded my laptop and camera
  • Courtesy of my brother and his wife, I am the ‘funny uncle’ of a multitude of nephews and nieces
  • Never would I have thought to indulge in that kind of sport, but I went skiing for a week 3 times
  • My hobby is home cinema and gradually I have upgraded my setup to a whoopin’ 7.2.4 configuration and it makes me happy
  • Four times I have visited soothing Denmark now and each time it was a blast
  • I acquired the skill of sculpturing balloon animals to a certain level of proficiency
  • My collection of Blu-Rays (mainly purchased for uncompressed audio, mind you) rose to a number of 284 movies and series
  • I starred in 3 stage plays at a local amateur theatre
  • Many series I have finished these years, and some stories were just right for me at that moment, which I am grateful for
  • But the most important and awe-inspiring thing is the time I have spent with my friends. The old ones, the new ones, the fleeting ones, the staying ones, all of them who I trust, who I share my life with and make our time worth double, triple and quadruple with!
Surely, there were some bad days. Where I was floating and did not know what to do. But they passed just like clouds after the rain.
And you were with me, my family and my friends. You are witnesses of the name of this blog and you are shaping the way Sir Oliver Evolves! 

Fond of Games? Why not make your life one!

In this article, I would like to elaborate on the reason why I seem to start posting in shorter intervals now.

Procrastinating on things is something we all are familiar with.
And if something doesn’t ache as much and makes nobody cry when omitted, you tend to leave it ‚for later’.
So I fared with my blog. I didn’t have much on the tip of my tongue and even less was asked to tell more stories.

Quite frankly, in recent times many areas of life suffered the fate of ‚Oh well.’.
Digital immersion becomes omnipresent, you get through the week by various ways of communication, entertainment or the now rare real-world-real-people interaction.

To be honest, even before some lifestyle choices were being lifted from our hands I felt some trouble designing my daily life with more constructive and even healthy elements.

So on some binging nights in the last weeks, I started making lists. Lists of my personal habits, positive and negative, of things I want to be doing daily in real life, of rewards for doing well.

So far so good, well meant thoughts and a pretty rounded concept in itself.

But I didn’t just make those lists to be lists. On paper they would have been hard to follow up on. I put them in a program called Habitica.

I thought: Would it make a difference, if I would use my smartphone for one more thing, next to compulsively looking for ‚new’ things where there are none?
And it did make difference!

Now, there’s another app and another website (the desktop version is even more effective) I keep visiting and checking and following up on.
The difference is: This app, this game has an impact on my real life. Every minute I spend using it means I have made a real life difference or plan on doing so. Many other games, I observed, only give back an in-game experience for the time spent with it.

That said, I myself am somewhat of a gamer at times.
Only that I prefer games that give me some sort of story or material that enriches my life when NOT playing them, too.
So, how does a game work, which gameplay involves real-life elements and is able to reshape an Oliver’s life in some regards?

In its core, it is a role playing game. Those feature a virtual character in a constructed scenario, whose fate is decided by you, the player.

In Habitica, you start out as a simple character and after you have completed onboarding, you can put in your set of so-called tasks and your journey begins.

I recommend preparing the lists beforehand, even thinking about them for some nights.
Those tasks are divided in several categories: Habits (positive, negative, both), Dailies (which hurt the character when left undone) and ToDos (one-off things to finish).

For tapping any positive habit or completing any Daily or ToDo you earn gold, experience and ever so often find some eggs, hatching potions, pet food and other things.
You can set one out of 4 difficulty levels for any task, so you can rank the earnings accordingly and motivate yourself to tick off that one burning ToDo, knowing you will earn fat cash and experience upon completion.

Experience makes your character grow and ascend to higher levels, which give you more features, lets you choose a character class and gives you skills and other perks.
Gold can be spent in gear, quests rolls, many other things and most importantly, in self-set rewards.

It would be too much to explain all the mechanics here, so I will only go on about how it made a difference in my own life.

The first requirement is commitment.
If you don’t want to live by a set of guidelines, which you set yourself, a game like this will hardly be of service.

Just keep in mind that you set all tasks yourself, be it ‚get up early’, ‚brush teeth’ or ‚spend time with family’. Little tasks, when benefiting your personal life, are quite as adequate as big ones like ‚clean windows’ (bi-monthly interval, higher difficulty for fat earnings) or ‚work out hard’ (5 days a week, high difficulty for motivation).

Anything that benefits your life and makes you actually do the things that surely would be ‚nice to have done’ is a step in the right direction.
Would you rather not clean out your hairbrush at all, or doing it regularly plus ticking off a task in the app, earning points towards the next sweet reward, piece of gear or the next level-up?

For me personally, I was very much astonished to just have given up certain bad habits only for the consequence of having to press the button that would hurt my character (and at the same time would prove me succumbing to the bad thing).
That was all I needed to overcome some things that became a bother over time.

I have begun to leave my smartphone out of shared meals, do no look at it anymore when watching a movie, straighten my sheets every morning, read more than I have for a long time, exercise, eat fresh things daily, maintain several healthy habits and plan on writing a blog entry more regularly. As soon as I have posted this, be sure that I will collect significant earnings. :wink:

So I can treat myself to some of the various rewards, which now mean I have indeed worked towards them and lived another day doing constructive and good things.

For more fun and commitment, you can team up with a friend or colleague in a party and defeat bosses, find loot together and push each other towards the goals you set yourselves.
Not even mentioning all the pets you can hatch and feed and make your character look cool with as a mount.

So. I am playing another game. Every day.
This game makes me follow good habits, change up my lifestyle for the better and helps me choose to do the things I would usually leave ‚for later’.

In the end I have fun and feel like I have done at least something on even the dullest and darkest days.
I encourage everyone to experience this as well. If you choose Habitica or any other system is up to you and your preference.

And even the smallest thing you do is another thing done. Why not start today?

How to shape your reality

Today at work I learned something about ease and unease and it led me to a rather topical topic I would like to share with you.

Sometimes I ask myself: What is happening these days?
Is anything happening? And if yes, is it good or is it bad? Do I like it or don’t I?

A silly old answer to that would be: It depends.

Thinking about it more, it starts to make sense to me. It just depends. But on what?
It solely depends on my perspective. How I look at things. How I interpret things and in which way my sensory apparatus reports back to the CPU.
You can apply this train of thought to grander and tinier schemes: Be it some triviality or something big, like the ugly faces of a lock-down situation.

Starting with the trivialities, I would like to lay out my favorite story on how to shape your reality:
Imagine yourself driving. You left home right on time for a moderately important thing. All’s well, music is nice, the sun is not blinding and your tummy rumbles in anticipation for what is to come.
Now there’s more cars on the road than yours alone and you approach a car from behind. Most times this happens when the other car goes slower than you do. And this one stinking does!
There is no way to overtake, no alternative detour, no chance it would go faster, no other way but following this slowpoke.

Some of you might already have taken the decision on how you feel about the situation. But guess what, you are one step ahead of me!
I still haven’t decided on what to make out of the situation:

  • Do I jump to the conclusion that this driver just wants to make me angry?
  • Do I bathe in thoughts of revenge and what gestures I will use, should I finally overtake?
  • Do I judge the driver by this only drive I must witness?
  • Do I assume things about him?
  • Do I know anything about him?
  • Do I know who he is?
  • Do I know where he is going or where he is coming from?
  • Do I know what he might be transporting?
  • Do I know whether he has a choice driving this slow?

Based on the answers I would give to these questions, I will go by one of these universal theories:

  • In the seat next to him is a huge bowl of dessert that he found no way covering. So he better drive slow!
  • He experiences a medical emergency, which got worse during the drive and he must be careful not to endanger others.
  • He is the best man for a wedding and has the splendorous cake to deliver.
  • He is scared to the bones because he just missed some deer crossing the same street and drives extra cautious, no matter what.

At the core of my message please find this: We all have a perfectly neutral choice to either be just mad or assume any of the benevolent theories.

Why can we do that so easily? Because the consequences of our reality-bending choice are free of any harm whatsoever.

In any situation making us feel uneasy, we can use this. For example:

  • Is something making you feel embarrassed for someone else and you positively cannot stop it from happening? Look away and don’t let it happen in your mind. Did it ever happen then?
  • Do you fear judgement of others and are you too afraid to ask about it? Pretend they do not judge you to begin with.
  • Do you have negative assumptions about something you do not understand fully? Assume otherwise. (that is a hard one)

So whenever you feel this window, when you indeed have the free will to assume something good or bad, choose wisely.
Only keep in mind the consequences of your choice. Does it affect nothing else than your own reality? Then go ahead and shape it to your liking!
But as soon as it affects the reality of others, be it through you telling others about your shaped reality or through other actions towards others, you have a greater responsibility to carry.

To the grander schemes, like a globally present situation or other things and events we don’t have much to say or to change about, we can apply this way of thinking as well.
Based on what we know and on the real life consequences of our way of thinking, we can assume any attitude we like best and which helps us the most.

Our thoughts are us. And what are we?

 

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